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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how do you know your best friend wouldn't return the favor?  Have you ever asked?  Otherwise, how can she be your best friend if you can't talk to her about it?  [/quote]

She claims my kids get nervous around her boys (I have 2 little girls who are shy). [/quote]

Then she shouldn't dump her boys on you and your girls![/quote]

Fully agree. It is true that my girls are fine when I'm there and can keep everyone in check. I love her boys- but I don't want extra work so other people can save a little bit of money or relax when it's at my expense AND it was done in a sneaky way. If she asked me up front, that she wanted to have some quality time with her husband, and could I please help her, I would and have babysat for free. But I don't appreciate it when I'm put in a position where I can't say no[b](she did not answer her phone when I called and she was gone for 4 hours[/b]). It was also very inconvenient and I did not appreciate the disrespectful way she just assumed I could drop everything and stay home all day with her kids. [/quote]

OP, the bold part indicates to me that she knew exactly what she was doing. What parent who has left all their kids somewhere does not answer the phone when called by the person overseeing the kids? For all she knew, you could have been calling to tell her that the ambulance just took Johnny to the hospital. Nope, she was avoiding calls as she stretched out errands into an afternoon off without telling you in advance.

Others are questioning why you call her your best friend -- some blaming you, it seems, for not talking to her or not being willing just to take her kids willy-nilly.

That's silly of those doing the questioning. You and she can be adult friends whose children don't enter into your friendship. Adults can spend time with each other but never babysit for each other or involve their whole families in outings together, etc. This is not weird (except to some DCUM folks, I guess). You can love her as a person but recognize that she's not the greatest parent. You can be friends with her and say no to her as well. Some folks here don't get that.

[b]And you're right -- she's sneaky. Another vote here for telling the other friend that "Sally mentioned she might put the kids in public school and will need an hour of someone to watch them every day before school if she does that. She might or might not do it, but if she does, you should know that she mentioned you as a person who might take her four kids each morning for an hour. I'm telling you now so that it doesn't come as a surprise IF she brings it up."[/b][/quote]

+10000

She is extremely sneaky.  Which in my book, means she has made herself NOT my friend.  GL, OP.  
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