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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So do they ever act as a supervising adult?  Like if you and your DH goes off, can you EVER say, "Hey, sis/cuz, can you keep an eye on Larla and Larlo?  I am going to grab a quick nap?".  Or are they always gone?

My family (and my in-laws) do this, but it is more of an unspoken understanding that anyone that sees any child is justified in correcting them/keeping them safe, but you have to pull your weight, you know?  You can't disappear ALL of the damn time.

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Sadly, no...and frankly, with the way they are, I don't know that I'd really trust them to actually watch my kids while I took a walk or anything longer than a quick shower. For example, my older cousin was once "watching her kids" and my sister's kids while my sister napped before my family arrived. My sister and cousins were the only adults there at the time. When I arrived with my then-only child, I found my cousin asleep on the couch, the boys arguing in the back room, the toddler in the kitchen, and my sister's two girls upstairs unsupervised in the (finished) attic area where we keep toys, life jackets...and the old-style tie-on ice skates they were PLAYING WITH. It's just not worth it, and it's a very unbalanced dynamic.

My sister always takes umbrage when I correct her kids, which I only do when I think they are doing something dangerous.[/quote][/quote]

If your sister takes umbrage when you correct her kids, start correcting them all the time. Hopefully she takes do much umbrage that she decides to stay at home and watch her kids. In the meantime, let her know that if you're responsible for the kids, then you get to correct them as you see fit.
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This was my reaction as well.  If they are leaving the children in your care, all of the children follow your rules.  If either mother doesn't care for it, then they can take their turns minding the children and enforce their rules.  Stop holding back and trying to be nice.[/quote]

Exactly. I wouldn't say this in front of the kids,  because I wouldn't want them to think they're a burden,  but if my sister complained, I would have her step into the next room and say,  "Believe me, I don't want to discipline your kids. I think that should be your job. But do is watching them, and you and Cedric keep wandering off. So be the parent or stop complaining that other people are."[/quote]

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