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[quote=Anonymous]Wow, some pretty judgmental folks on this thread, telling her to dump this guy.

Good thing my husband did not get that advice before he married me. We were married 5 years before I told him anything about the sexual abuse in my family.

OP, you need to educate yourself about this issue. My DH was not supportive of me when I initially told him. (You were not supportive of your fiance; you should not have been angry at him.) The dynamics are extremely complicated. I choose to have a relationship with my family members because they are the only family I have and, as messed up as part of our lives was, I love them. My life is better since recent therapy has helped me deal with a lot of issues and work this all out in my own head, so I think therapy can be hugely beneficial. But if you fiance doesn't want therapy, that is something different. Perhaps you can suggest that, before you marry, you go to counseling together. He told you before marriage. Now you have time to work on this together.[/quote]

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