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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi there OP.  You may have read my posts before. I am the 52y.o brother of a 47y.o schizophrenic, bipolar, OCD sister.  My sister is actually pretty good, takes her meds, etc. On diability. Unable to save a dime. The usual stuff. But, I know all her friends and folks in the local (fairfax) mental health system. Quite a few of them think they are perfectly fine, or go off their meds regularly.

I cannot offer you advice on how to plan for the future, per se. But, there is one thing that is missing from all these responses, that I think might give you a foothold into his world. Keep in touch!! And every single time you talk with him, or go to dinner or anything say these important words: "I love you very much. We are family."  I hope you are already doing that, but with my sister, that's how we broke through. Not just showing love, but saying it all the time.[/quote]

Yes, great advice. I try and sometimes he stands me up but he generally responds to email.

FWIW a diagnosis (which he has- depression, PTSD, acquired personality disorder-- doesn't get you disability benefits if you won't release your medical records or submit to the interview. This is a competent adult with a near-genius IQ who presents as normal until you learn about his life and find out his wealth is in his head.

He certainly won't submit while my parents are supporting him. As long as my mother's alive she will sabotage anything she perceives as an attempt to help secure his independence from her. He would keep a secret from her while he's feeling compliant, then go tell her when he feels insecure about leaving her nest.

For someone who mentioned a trust -- I don't have money to support him and my parents won't discuss how they're handling theirs. Dad doesn't care and mother won't acknowledge that there's anything wrong.

I might have to get this done once he's got no choice other than disability payments or homelessness. [/quote]

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