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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't send your two kids to different schools. That will be their predominate memory - that they were so different from each other, they couldn't even go to the same school.

Don't do this to kids[/quote]

That's ridiculous!  My kids go to different schools (one for AAP, the other not).  They do not harbor any resentment -- unless you count the fact that the AAP kid resents that he has more work than the non-AAP kid.  [/quote]

Not the PP, but I think that's wishful thinking on your part.  Have you ever seriously wondered what your non-AAP child thinks (not says) about the fact that his sibling gets to go to a different school, but s/he does not?[/quote]

My non AAP kid talks about it all the time with me. The younger sibking is happy to be at the base school. Kid loves math and is in the same advanced math program as the center sibling was in, and on the same middle school math trajectory. Kid hates writing and is happy not to be at the center where they write more and do caesars English. Kid likes being at the base school with most of the kids friends. A couple of close friends went to center and kid still does activities with them. The non AAP happy to talk about the center and make suggestions to the AAP friends of activities that older sibling really enjoyed.

My non AAP kid is not jealous in the least of older AAP sibling or AAP friends. In fact, when I asked if kid wanted to try to apply for the center next year, kid thought about it for a minute and gave a firm no, for all the reasons mentioned above.  There is one activity that makes kid want the center a little but not enough to make the kid jealous or want to switch schools.

[b]I think if I were a parent like you who was obsessed with and insanely jealous of AAP then perhaps the non AAP kid would feel bad about school or be jealous as well. [/b]But with most normal parents who value their kids as individuals with different needs, and who don't obsess about who is or is not in AAP, their kids will not really care beyond  perhaps an initial disappointment at not seeing friends at school daily.[/quote]

Oh, ok.  I see you don't have two kids (one AAP and one Gen Ed) who [b]both[/b] attend a center as their base school.  Perhaps if you did, your Gen Ed child's experience would be vastly different from what you describe above.  When GE kids have to attend centers, they see many of their friends from K-2 moving into AAP - but not them.  They come home crying and upset, not understanding why they aren't in class with their best friends anymore (who, remember, still attend the same school), and why there are so many kids in the AAP classes but so few in General Ed, with them.

So you see, since your non-AAP kid obviously doesn't have to attend a center (and is fortunate not to have to), they have no reason to feel bad about themselves.  Those kids who DO have centers as their base schools, see this dynamic every single day, and guess what?  It's no fun at all to be in their shoes.  If it makes you feel better to label parents who don't like center schools as "obsessed and insanely jealous (???)," then knock yourself out.  I'm sure it's easier to insult parents who have actual concerns than to really try putting yourself in their shoes for a moment and imagining how your non-AAP kid might feel if s/he had to go to a school in which s/he felt inferior every single day.  [/quote]

Your GE child clearly has some issues-- either inherently, or  because of your reactions. The fact is in FCPS kids don't get to be in the same class as their bestie year in and year out. It's a crap shoot. And not all kids are going to get the same opportunities growing up. What happens when your DC misses the travel soccer cut and her bestie does not? Or doesn't get chosen for a varsity sport, or a music ensemble or an acadEric competition team-- but bestie does? I guess we could eliminate all these things to spare your DCs feelings. Or you could teach your child resilience, help her recognize and be proud of her own strengths, and stop insisting that everyone get a participation trophy. [/quote]

Oh for God's sake.  Read, why don't you.  The previous post clearly stated that most of the kids are moved into AAP, with very few remaining in Gen Ed.  We're not talking about one particular best friend, obviously.  But continue twisting words to suit your own purposes and diminish the experiences of others.  [/quote]

First, more than one person is responding to you and we ARE reading what you wrote.  Now, you're telling me that MOST of the kids in 2nd grade were moved into AAP classes at your center school?  This CAN'T be true.  My DD transferred from our base school to our center school.  There were 8 ESs that fed into her center AAP, so there's no way that the MAJORITY of your TCs (thanks for that pp - cute) class could have moved into the AAP classes.  There would have been no room for kids coming from other ESs.

You seem like a dramatic person, so my guess is that is where TC gets it from.  She sees you upset and over-reacting about the kids that moved and she's stressing about it.  Ooooor, she isn't really upset about it at all and you're the one upset that she didn't get in.  I can imagine that it's tough to be around the kids and parents that have been with you since K and you thought your DD would get in and then she didn't.  Did you express that opinion to some of the parents and now you're embarrassed?

I would have only said something if I KNEW my kid was going to get in, hands down, no questions......otherwise....awkwaaaard....

Btw, we have friends with kids in the center school as their base school and they think you're full of it.[/quote]

My goodness... who's the hostile one?  That's quite a bit of presumption (and vitriol) on your part, all of which is deeply incorrect and none of which is worth responding to.  Other than, that's some imagination you have.[/quote]

No imagination needed and [b]there's absolutely nothing hostile about this post at all[/b].  Most of it is actually fact, some questions, with a presumption thrown in that was clearly identified along with the question.  Vitriol...haha...really? Calling someone out on their dramatics isn't harsh.  It's simply that, calling someone out on their dramatics.[/quote]

Wow.   :shock:  Nice blind spot you have.[/quote]

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