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[quote=Anonymous]This seems to be a common generational dispute: The concept of "respect they parents no matter what they do because they gave us life" is shared by the boomers and not so much by generation X onward.

Not sure we're going to solve this in this thread.

That said, if you just zoom out a bit and think about group dynamics, any one person being perceived as a free loader when others are feeling stressed is going to cause problems. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that if OP and her husband were seriously pulling it in, this thread wouldn't exist. The problem is that OP is stressed and has limited resources (as most of us do), and is frustrated that healthy MIL isn't concerned with this fact. I may be wrong, but if MIL said "I know childcare must be costing you a bundle, can I help with the kids two days a week?" OP would probably feel more concerned with overburdening an older lady.

I don't think OP is saying "my MIL has to raise my kids or else she deserves to be treated like crap." I think she's just frustrated that MIL is being oblivious and selfish while she is stressing out.

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