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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe people are missing my two issues.

1.  She's said I'm an unfit mother to my own child, by implying I can't raise hers.

2.  She's picked someone who will ensure I never see my niece and nephew, simply because she thinks I'm a killjoy.

By the way, I said PPD.  That's over and done with, and my child is two years old.[/quote]

No, people are not missing your issues.  They are saying that you are projecting your feelings of insecurity and depression onto others.  You are taking a very negative perspective on the given circumstances.  Most of the people here think you need to get therapy to treat your depression so that you can see things realistically rather than pessimistically.

1. Your sister did not say you are unfit to raise your other child.  She has not implied that you cannot raise her children.  If anything she has implied that you have your hands full with one child and a full-time work schedule such that you already have work-life balance issues.  She does not think that adding two additional children into your life will be good for any of you.  If you change the perspective to the one that she is as much concerned for you as her children and doesn't want to burden you or put her children into a situation that makes your life unbearably difficult them you can give yourself a more positive perspective.  She does not want her children to be a burden to you and wants them to go to a household that has more time for them.

2. You have no idea whether the friend will definitely keep you from seeing your niece and nephew, you only know that she doesn't like you because you and she are not compatible friends.  She may be a person who values family over all else and will make sure that you see the kids even though she doesn't like you.  But once again, you have taken the circumstance that the friend doesn't like you and projected the very negative shadow that she will keep you from your kids.  As I said earlier, since you cannot change the friend, you can change the friend's perspective on you.  Work on fixing what is in your control which is the perception that you do not have the work-life balance to handle more than is on your plate.  If you fix your work-life balance and have more time for family, especially your own child, it will give the perception that you have the time and energy to handle more than is currently on your plate.  Right now, even you admit that you are having problems handling what is already on your plate, let alone anything more.[/quote]

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