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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe people are missing my two issues.

1.  She's said I'm an unfit mother to my own child, by implying I can't raise hers.

2.  She's picked someone who will ensure I never see my niece and nephew, simply because she thinks I'm a killjoy.

By the way, I said PPD.  That's over and done with, and my child is two years old.[/quote]

1. That is not what she said. It's how you are interpreting her wishes. Has she tried to declare you unfit to raise your child? Has she tried to keep you from seeing your niece and nephew because you are a terrible person? Of course not. Frankly, you sound super sensitive and very rigid, so maybe she thinks she has more in common, values and personality-wise, with her fun-loving friend. This is not an indictment of you.

2. You are imagining that the friend would never let you see your niece and nephew again if your sister died. You are accusing her of being the kind of person who literally would keep grieving children away from their biological relatives because she doesn't think they are fun. This is a terribly unfair and judgmental thing to say about another person and really makes me wonder about your grasp on reality.

You sound like you have a LOT of emotional baggage that it's time to let go of. If this is bothering you so much, please talk to your sister about her decision and how she came to make it. I agree with the PP who wonders where the adults are in your family with all this she-said, she-said nonsense from you, your sister and even your mother!

(And I would be pissed at my sister, too, if she stalked out of my bachelorette party because there were strippers. Sometimes you just need to put your own needs and judgments aside for a few hours to celebrate with your own goddamned sister. It doesn't matter if you called cabs or not, I'm sure you put a huge damper on the evening. And I don't like strippers, either.)[/quote]

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