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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was miserable my first few weeks of college.  My roommates and I were not a great match.  I spent most of the first 2 weeks sleeping in another dorm with some HS friends.  I lost weight b/c I didn't want to eat in the cafeteria alone.  It was pretty terrible.

Then I realized that this was my life and I had to adjust.  I started participating in dorm activities.  A friend encouraged me to join a club sports team.  Suddenly I had new friends.
In fact my best friend to this day is someone I met in college at the beginning of freshman year.

He needs to get involved in some sort of activity and make friends.  Encourage him to get involved.  I know it can be tough if he is having panic attacks and is maybe even depressed but he'll find his clique if he tries.

If he was BMOC maybe a fraternity or club sports team might be where he finds his new crew.

Good luck to him 
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I agree.  When I was a freshman, the RA and I just didn't really connect.  He and several of the guys on my dorm floor were sports jock types and they understood each other.  At the time, I really wasn't very receptive to an adult like a counselor because that just felt more like a parent which is what I was trying to get away from.

I found a club, well, actually the club essentially found me when the current president saw me one evening when I was looking for a diversion and roped me in.  That guy and several of the friends that I met in this club became some of my best friends.  4 of them are still my best friends almost 30 years later.  The club president who roped me in?  He was a senior and he became a bit of the mentor that this young freshman needed and I learned a lot from him about how to adjust to college.  In my junior and senior year, I was also president of the same club and I do know that I roped in some freshman, and I also helped some of them with the transition to college.  It's a time-honored rite of passage that is a cycle.

While you can encourage your son to go to a counselor, also suggest that he look for clubs that interest him and try to see if he can find others including maybe some upperclassmen who might be able to help him transition to college.  
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