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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's almost impossible to advise b/c we don't know your kid or the schools or what the future will hold.  But you may want to think about some things.

1. What would happen if for some reason, it didn't work out for your kid at the mainstream private?  Where would he go?  
2. Would transitioning to the mainstream private be an option in a few years?
3. Given commutes, tuition, etc. are you able to fit in whatever therapies/support your kid may need that he may not get during the day at the private?

Sometimes, kids react differently when the social and academic demands increase.  So, it may be preferable to stick with the charter especially in the early years so you know those are needs are being met and supported.[/quote]

This is good advice.  We had to choose between a very well regarded private and a highly regarded charter and are so glad that we chose the charter.  DS was not diagnosed until he was 4 and had we chosen the private school, we would have had to leave.

No behavioral or learning issues other than not engaging with other kids...  That is until 2nd grade when we had a ton of behavioral issues.  If we did not have the IEP, DS would have been expelled or suspended.

All behavioral issues were resolved within a few month with the IEP and DS will be entering 3rd grade at the same charter.

[b]We will be looking at mainstream private schools for middle schools and beyond but am soooooo glad we chose the charter for elementary.[/b][/quote]

Mainstream private middle schools, in general, are terrible places for SN kids with behavioral issues. Middle school is just a tough time all around.[/quote]

Yeah, middle school sucks.  We are targeting a particular mainstream private school (not in this area) that is 6-9 grades all boys only middle school.  Have backups of course if it does not work out.[/quote]

He no longer has behavior issues.  [/quote]

But he might in the future, right? Did you know he was going to have behavior issues before this year?

The thing about the spectrum is that in many ways, it gets harder as kids get older. The social dynamics, especially the unwritten "rules" become more complicated and the social consequences for following them become greater. Kids have bigger emotions as they get older, especially as hormones play a bigger role. Kids are more aware of -- and potentially embarrassed by -- their emotions.

I'm not saying a mainstream private won't be right for you -- I don't know your kid, of course. But I wouldn't expect that all of his issues will be "solved" by middle school.[/quote]

I am curious what middle school you would recommend for a kid with an FSIQ of 150+ without academic or behavioral issues with an ASD/ADHD diagnosis?[/quote]

Start your own topic regarding your child.  This has nothing to do with OP question or concerns.[/quote]

No need to get all huffy.  I am the same pp who had to choose between a main stream private and a charter when DS was starting school.   DS like OP's kid has what we thought were "mild" SNs when he was little but as they get older, their profile gets more clear and one can better choose the schools that are a better fit.

But for nursery and elementary, choose public.  Better supports in case your child needs it.  Do private for middle or later.[/quote]

Her child is not your child or my child so your choice or our choices may not be best for her child.  [b]Clearly you missed things early on with your child that OP is not[/b].  We did a small private and supplemented heavily with private therapy and its worked out great.  We were told my child's needs were far more severe than they were and now at almost 6, he's catching up nicely.  No academic concerns.  It can go either way so OP should choose what she feels is best.  For us, early supports and individual attention were far more important early on.  You worry about middle school at middle school.  Right now she needs to focus on the early years and small classes with more individual support are far better.[/quote]

NP but this is unreasonably nasty for the SN board. A child's issues in elementary school can't necessarily have been cured or fixed by anything a parent did early on. [/quote]

Not at all trying to be nasty but lots of parents miss things, dismiss things or just hope it resolves itself vs. spending the time and money on early intervention.  And, teachers, pediatricians and others often minimize things as well (we had that happen - we had to push to get our child help and private pay before anyone else recognized it).  I know several kids who would benefits from speech and other help - I'm not saying anything as they are involved parents and the kids will probably outgrow it but a few speech sessions would be helpful.

The goal of early intervention should not be to fix or cure, as many things are not curable but to give the kids tools to cope or work around the concerns they have so they are better able to handle things later on.  For our child, I can see the benefits of early intervention.  If we didn't get it, would he be ok?  Probably but we'll never know because we choose to do it.

But, the point of the thread is can children's needs be met at a private school when they have delays or are they better off in public.  Most privates are not equipped or interested as most of us know.  But, there are a few depending on the needs that are open to it.  If there are no behavioral problems, that helps a lot.[/quote]

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