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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 4 young kids and am in upper management.

I compartmentalize.  When I go to work (at 7am)- I am fully engaged.  I work at the office.  I don't communicate with home during the day.  I've tried to work at home a few times and failed miserably. I've become uber efficient.  I've cut out most small talk and hypothesizing that can consume hours in a day.  I am super productive at work.  
And I leave by 6- no ifs ands or buts.

I use my train ride home to decompress and switch my frame of mind.  I try to get all the negativity and overhanging issues out of my head.

When I get home- I am completely in family mode.  I do dinner, baths, homework, bedtime, and am completely "present" with my kids.  Then I try to make some time for my husband (our relationship often gets the short stick).  Then only if necessary, I logon and work for another hour before bed- but always try to get to bed by 10:30.

My weekends are completely for family.  I don't let work invade it.  I may logon Sunday night to get a jumpstart on the week.

After you figure out how to compartmentalize and be as efficient as you can, then decide if your job is still a problem and switch jobs.  I just find so many people complain how busy, stressed they are when they only have 1 child.  I know it's just because they are inefficient.  For instance, I get my groceries, Target, and another errand done from 8:30-10pm one night/week.  I know several moms who can stretch this out to an 8 hour outing.[/quote]

Kudos to you, but I could never spend such little time with my kids. [/quote]

Such little time with his/her kids??? From dinner until bed time and all weekend? That's pretty normal, sanctimommy. [/quote]

It sounds exhausting... I don't see 10 minutes of "me time" for exercise, salon, friends, etc.  [/quote]

I call bullshit to many of the high-level executives on this forum pulling in huge salaries that have such important jobs, and they are so uber-efficient and present at work that are sitting here ripping each other's lives apart on an anonymous forum. I think most of you think you're way more important than you are, and you hide in your offices and fart around online just like everyone else, while your nannies raise your kids.[/quote]

I'm not one of the high-level posters, but I think it's so sad that you can't believe something is possible just because you can't see yourself doing it. If it makes you feel better about yourself, I suppose...[/quote]

I kind of get PPs point though, being able to eff around on DCUM by definition means you aren't busy doing important work, no? I know I am bored mindless in a position that has to stay open for budget reasons despite having almost no work to do anymore and that's why I have time to fart around on here. If you are 100% nose to the grind as you claim or doing something of such high critical importance you aren't logged on to DCUM, that doesn't makes sense.

FWIW, even though an hour a night is the norm, its really not all the much time with your kids during the week, its just our reality and its better if we just own it.[/quote]

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