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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ultimately, if you choose a private school, especially after attending the local public one, you ARE making a statement that the public school is not good enough for your child.  There are many reason why you might make that decision (wanting a religious influence, wanting smaller classes, wanting a different group of peers, wanting different academic opportunities), but that IS what your move to private is saying.

It's not unexpected that someone who has decided the public school IS good enough for their kids w[b]ould feel a little insulted by your choice[/b].  Good friends would not say that and would want things to work out for you whatever that may be.  You are making a value judgment too OP and you said your standards are higher than theirs.... what is good enough for them is not good enough for you.  If you want to ditch public, than don't be so surprised that supporters of your local public feel *a little* rejected.  You ARE rejecting their school and their standards.[/quote]

Tough tushies. Everyone does what they think is best for their kids. I don't judge my friends for having their kids in public, private, religious, secular or even homeschooling environments. I want them to do what's best for them. Their choices do not insult me and my choices. [/quote]

Did those friends' kids actually attend your kids' school and then decide they wanted something "different" that happens to cost $30K more than the public school?  That's the difference.  I don't judge or begrudge my friends who live in other areas for the cost/benefit analysis they have made.  It becomes a bit personal though, if a friend in my kids' school says she wants better for her kid.  Not going to hate on someone for making that choice (I might make the same choice if I was richer).... [b]but it IS a statement that my public is not good enough for that person's kid.[/b]

I think the same thing happens in the reverse at privates.... there is pressure to stay with the private and people thinking of leaving for public don't dare mention it.[/quote]

We just left a well-regarded charter for a suburban school,and you know what?  It's because the school wasn't a good fit for my kid.  It's not a good fit for some other kids there, too (though they are leaving within a few years, as well).  It is a good fit for most of the class, though, because the school excels at getting kids in tough circumstances and/or low SES kids prepared for college.  That's not really an issue for my kid.

I suppose, if you were looking for a reason to be offended, you could substitute "good enough" for "a good fit."  You might even be right.  But I really don't care.    [/quote]

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