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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I say this to my husband all the time. No big deal. You're over thinking it. [/quote]

I also say this to DH all the time. I also say that we probably would not still be married if it weren't for the kids. I actually feel like this quite often when I am mad or having a bad day.

DH knows I love him. Even when we were dating, I would say we should break up occasionally. [/quote]

I honestly don't understand why you think this is okay.  Do you not realize how hurtful it is?[/quote]

PP here. Because it is how I feel! Our relationship took a nose dive when our second child was born. DH and I had no relationship for two years and became parenting roommates. I have grown and my expectations are lower now. I accept our marriage for the kids. We both love our kids dearly.

I have been with DH for 15 years. Sometimes I really hate him. Other times I like him like a friend. Once in a while, I feel like the luckiest woman in the world. Usually it is middle ground. I used to think we were unique with our marital issues but after witnessing other families go through worse, I realize these ups and downs are quite normal and what marriage is all about.

It sounds like you can't handle the truth![/quote]

There's no glory in sharing every negative thought you have.  And likewise, there's no glory in sitting around listening to it.  I'm sure my dh has days where he's fed up with me, and I him.  But I couldn't imagine sticking around if he told me he hated me or regretted marrying me or that we should split up.  Sharing those thoughts are poisonous to a marriage.  Do you think it doesn't hurt your dh when you say that?[/quote]

DH just got home and gave me a hug and kiss and told me he loved me. Today is a good day. We have very good communication. I am very poised when I am out but I have zero filter with DH.[/quote]

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