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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why the abortion OP?[/quote]

We had only been dating a few months, had not discussed children, marriage, or even moving in together at that point; and ultimately i wasn't ready personally for motherhood at that time.
I mentioned the abortion because it;s something that brought us together and accelerated our relationship; made us realize how important we were together having been through such a difficult time and that maybe we did want children someday. [/quote]

Before people start cutting the OP up for this, I was in a slightly similar situation. We'd been together longer than the OP and her boyfriend, but the experience of getting pregnant by accident and deciding (together) to end the pregnancy (for pretty much the same reasons as the OP, only I have a child from a previous marriage and like being a mom so the "not ready for motherhood" wasn't one of our reasons) ended up being a really strengthening experience for our relationship. During that month, I learned that now-DH and I are on the same page about priorities and that he is 100% supportive and reliable in a crisis (my ex was basically the opposite of reliable in a crisis). It really clarified for us the way we wanted our relationship to be, and we started taking steps to get to that place.

However, in the OP's case, it doesn't sound like that happened. OP, your boyfriend does not interact with you like a mature person able to be in an adult relationship. If you are invested in this relationship, which I do not believe you should feel obligated to be, please insist that you and your BF go see a couples counselor to learn how to communicate. You need to learn how to have disagreement without conflict.[/quote]

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