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[quote=Anonymous]Has anyone read that chapter in Nurtureshock that references spanking?  I read it several years ago so don't remember all the details.  But basically, they found that spanking was associated with a bunch of negative outcomes--except when it came to African Americans.

Basically, the authors speculated that for white Americans, spanking was rarely used, and only used for what was considered a really bad transgression.  Thus, more traumatic for the recipient kids.  For AAs, spanking was used more routinely, in aggregate parents weren't as angry when doing it, and kids didn't feel as traumatized/ashamed/scared afterwards.  (Of course, not every black or white parent will fit these generalizations.)

I'm not advocating on one side or another.  If it matters, I'm biracial, and was spanked as a kid, but rarely, and only on my hand.  My husband and I are health professionals and we also occasionally our preschooler (occasional spanks on the hand if she's really acting up, followed by a chat to ensure she knows what she did wrong and why she was spanked).  Our daughter is a happy kid with a secure attachment, IMO, and I don't think she's any worse off for the hand swats every other month.

I don't condone spanking for all.  I really think you have to know yourself, and know what your limits are.  If either of us had even a bit of an anger problem, I think we'd by necessity need to swear off spanking.

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