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[quote=Anonymous]I don't really think that the type of discipline is as important as when you use it.  The kid has to have control over whether or not he will be spanked, yelled at, whatever.  The problem is when people do these things randomly or when they (the parent) is tired and frustrated.

If you spank your kid for doing X, and every time he does X, he knows he will get spanked, and if he doesn't do X, then he won't get spanked, that's okay.

If you don't spank your child, but you use positive reinforcement, only sometimes you just lose it and end up yelling, and the kid never knows if his behavior is going to result in a nice quiet chat with mom or getting screamed at, because it has nothing to do with his behavior, only how mom is feeling, then that is bad.  (i.e. a nice quiet chat about good behavior after hitting another kid on the playground, but getting screamed at later that day for dropping a glass of milk when mom was on her way out the door)  That is much, much worse than spanking.  And THAT is how you get entitled kids who think the rules don't apply to them.  Because they grow up believing that the only rule is that the strongest person in the room can do whatever he wants. 
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