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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well his question to me is what will happen to him if he follows me without a job, is unable to get a job, [b]and we don't work out[/b]? Maybe writing on the wall, but I still like to think we're just being practical...[/quote]

This literally made my eyes go wide when I read it.

I can't imagine thinking like this.  This is your husband and the father of your child.  He's making decisions based on the idea that it might not work out???

You are the breadwinner and the priority is keeping the family together.  He moves for your job and he looks for another job full-time.

His ego is your stumbling block.  Period.  Everyone has an ego, but he needs to figure out how to get over his and make the decision that is best for your family.[/quote]

Why does this make your eyes go wide?

This is the advice everyone on here is giving to SAHMs all the time! They say it's stupid to give up everything and depend entirely on your spouse when the spouse could ditch you at any time...

It seems like something we all should consider.

- a SAHM who depends on spouse but didn't quite intend to end up this way. [/quote]

This is what her DH is saying TO OP'S FACE. It was a red flag to me too. Have those thoughts and worries, plan for bad things to happen--thats what you're talking about. But her DH keeping the divorce idea alive between them AFTER they are married with a kid is an active, if unwitting, attempt to undermine the marriage.[/quote]

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