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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.  I am thinking this is more about him moving away than anything else.  [/quote]

???

Are they the kind of ILs who think you should do all the traveling because DH moved away?

Time to end that line of thinking.  Sometimes adult children move.  That's life!  Time to adapt to that reality and start traveling or adapt to not seeing your grandkids so often.[/quote]

Yes, they are.  His brother and sister are still local to them.[/quote]

Ah.  Well, I like the PPs' argument about you and DH not making a big financial purchase without the other.  In that line of thinking, figure out how often to budget for a trip to where the ILs live.  Tell them that you can afford to visit 1-2 times per year, and that they're welcome to come visit you as well.  Do not offer to pay for their travel.  Put the ball in their court and be confident (both of you) in your feeling that it is reasonable to ask them to visit too.  Don't start catering to the whole "you moved away so only you have to come visit" line of thinking.[/quote]

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