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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That's the thing, I don't want to just date. Like most people, I see myself in a long-term monogamous relationship that is fulfilling.

Unfortunately most women in my date range (+/-10 years) either have kids or want them. So sometimes it feels isolated and like I might lose out on a potentially solid partner just because of this.

I can give or take on the question of marriage although I see no point of legalizing a relationship if there are no plans for bringing kids into the world.

However, is it wise or fair to compromise on something so serious as having kids? Regrets further on, or will I suddenly have an epiphany once they arrive?

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Of course you will lose out on a whole swath of 30-something women if you don't want to have kids. Most people want to have kids. But that's OK. If you are upfront about it, that actually will help you find someone who suits you more efficiently.

FWIW, my husband was 37 when I met him. I was quite a bit younger. He'd never wanted to get married before, and then he did--he wanted to marry ME. I had never wanted to get married before, either, at least not to anyone in particular. Then I did--I wanted to marry HIM. That's the ideal situation. Marriage in the abstract shouldn't be the goal. The goal, if marriage is something you are up for, should be marriage to a particular person who knocks your socks off.[/quote]

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