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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am afraid to tell him because it will open the door to him truly insulting me and I don't think I can take it. [/quote]

You can take it.

I used to be fat. You know what helped me not be fat anymore? Standing up for myself. It really helps a whole lot, because you learn to express and assert yourself, instead of eat it (feeling, food, whatever).

I get that it can be hard, but your body image, self worth, weight, and relationship will not be improved here. Not even a bit. You gotta communicate and talk and be strong. [/quote]
+1 You really are stronger than you give yourself credit for.  I used to be fat as well but then I[b] stopped looking outward for my self esteem[/b]. [/quote]

Not OP, and I'm asking seriously, how did you do this?  Like the very first step?  Did you lose weight and then start feeling better about yourself.

For me, stressful times, especially at work = Diet Coke and M&Ms.

To OP, I'm so sorry.[/quote]

The process went something like this for me:

1) got really angry, fed up, and frustrated with people

2) "confronted" those people. Not in an aggressive way, but in a polite yet firm way; got completely dismissed by them

3) got even more angry. joined a gym to listen to angry music and zone out and get out some of that anger

4) huh. look at that. I'm losing weight. feel awesome, because I stood up for myself, am now getting some happy endorphins from the exercise, and all my clothes are too big! cool!

5) continue. still eat m&m's, ice cream, cookies, etc sometimes. but exercise it away. mostly because it feels good, but also to release stress, frustration, and feel toughass with that sweat. [/quote]

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