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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one is projecting.  Statistics dont lie.  The majority of hetero women are left sexually unsatisfied.

If you were great in bed, your wife would want it more.  Full stop.  Sometimes the simplest answer is the correct one.  I know it's an ego blow, but being angry about that wont change it. [/quote]

But that's not always true. [b] Women's libidos often increase as they get older. [/b] Did their husbands miraculously get better in bed or are there factors independent of their partner in play?

It may be the husband has gotten lazy.  But it sure as hell is possible there are factors outside his control.  [/quote]

Some of it is probably that the husbands or other partners (second husbands, boyfriends -- as the husbands die off -- etc) ARE better.

Some of it is also probably that the kids are growing/grown up and the wife isn't constantly tired from being the default parent anymore. Seriously, before I became a mother I had NO idea why mothers had low libidos. Pre-kids my DH and I were well matched on the SD front. Post kids, even though he's a good dad...he doesn't shoulder 50% of the parenting burden (he can't in some ways, not blaming) and I am much more physically and emotionally tired than he is. One our kids are older, I am SO looking forward to a libido bounce back![/quote]

And I'm not disagreeing that if a man is a better lover, his wife will want sex more often.  My point is that there are often factors outside of his control that have more influence on a woman's libido- her biology/hormones and parenting obligations.  So simply telling a guy he has to be a better lover may not necessarily remedy the situation.  Plus, its pretty tough for a guy to get better if the frequency is low and his partner won't/can't tell him what she likes.  [/quote]

She doesn't care. She just wants to tell the OP, "Ha ha, you suck in bed. Loser." Why she wants to do this is potentially interesting though. Hates men? Lesbian? Had a husband who was a lazy piece of shit? Feels shame about her own lack of sexual response and wants to protect her own ego? Hard telling. [/quote]

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