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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To answer a PP's question is my son plays with a certain group of friends every day on the computer while talking via chat (like Skype).  These same group do exist IRL and come over frequently.  However, he grew very rapidly and thinned out and has some body image issues.  He has a condition that requires surgical correction which we are currently appealing the denial for.  I think this plays a big part of it.  I also think just being a teenager is huge part of it.  He is in all AP classes and that's tough too.

We are working on it, he's talking to his friends about it, to us (DH and I).  He's a good kid and knows he is loved dearly.  I never allowed the computer in his room so he is in my eye sight all of the time as the computer is in the family room.  I know all of his online activities and friends.

Thanks for all the helpful advice again.  He's not bullied or peer pressured, he doesn't do drugs, it's a battle to get him to take even vitamins.  He's broken two bones doing sports and didn't want the pain medication.  I'm not concerned about drugs or alcohol, we don't have either in the house.  [/quote]

OP, you keep saying he talks to you and his friends but that doesn't really matter. You and they are not professional psychiatrists. Kids with friends commit suicide. Kids with loving families commit suicide. Great kids who know they are loved commit suicide. In fact, they convince themselves that its because they love their families, that their families would be better off without them. Depression and suicidal ideation distort a person's ability to reason through these things. You can reason through it and tell yourself that because your DS knows he is loved and has friends he won't do it. But people with depression don;t think that way. And when they actually attempt suicide its an impulsive thing. Its "I'm alone in the house and the time is now," or "it would be so easy to just go out this window." Lack of impulse control is a huge factor in suicide. The idea gets planted and takes root and its all they can think about.

This poster is spot on. OP, get  off your ass and get him into see a professional.

Its enormously painful as a parent and I can understand why you are grasping onto reasons to feel he won;t do it. But he has told you he is suicidal. It doesn't get more urgent than that. The two years from now thing is a hedge, its a "I don;t want my parents to lock me up," or "I want to maintain what little control I have here."  He is suicidal NOW. The danger is NOW>

You say you have an appointment. Call and get in tomorrow. Seriously. Don;t wait a week. And to be careful call a suicide hotline and get some feedback on what to look for and what to do.[/quote][/quote]

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