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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What emergency would come up that you couldn't just unlock or bang the door down.

Some people just have way too much of a coddled world.  A lock door is just some privacy.  Nothing more, nothing less. [/quote]

Bingo.  I laughed at the PPs who won't let their kids lock their doors because they're such heavy sleepers they won't hear a smoke alarm.  Think about that- their teen child is unable to get out of a burning building and rather than focus on teaching a true life-or-death skill, they say the door has to be unlocked.  If your kid is truly that deep of a sleeper, then push the smoke detector button a couple times at 2am on a Saturday.  I guarantee everyone will be out of bed in under 30 seconds.

Besides- what if the parent is incapacitated or gone for the night?  Teach a little self preservation.[/quote]

I'm the parent who posted about sleeping, and I'm really curious how you teach waking up as a skill.  Trust me, I'd love to know.

I'm a really bad cook, so I've set off the smoke detector, which is directly outside DC's door, while making breakfast more times than I care to admit.  He's never stirred.  He's also slept through his alarm and missed things that he definitely wanted to do, more than once.  Do I worry?  Of course I do.  But it's hard to teach someone what to do when they're asleep, so if you know how then please tell me.  In the meantime, given that I don't want to have to break down the door on school mornings and our locks don't have holes for pins, I'll keep telling to leave his door unlocked at night.  [/quote]

If your kid truly is incapable of getting himself out of a burning house on his own, I'm amazed you throw your hands up and believe there's nothing you can do about it.

As I said before- run a couple middle-of-the-night fire drills.  Set off the smoke detector at 2am.  Yell 'FIRE' and run a mock fire drill in the middle of the night.  Seriously- what would they do if you were unconscious from smoke asphyxiation or gone for the night?

I guarantee your kid has heard the smoke alarm, ignores it, and rolls over.  Or maybe the you need to put a smoke detector right outside his bedroom door.  But there's a slight difference between hearing the smoke detector go off while he can hear you cooking and a 2am fire alarm.

Why do you have to break down the door on school mornings?  Your kid can't set their own alarm and get out of bed on their own?  I'm assuming your kid is at least 12, since this is the older kids forum.  Seriously, have them start setting their own alarm and being responsible for their own morning ritual.  My daughter isn't a morning person- hell, I'm not a morning person.  But you're resigned to the current fact that your kid is incapable of waking themselves up.  What is he going to do when he goes to college or has to get a job in a few years?  Pick only afternoon courses or work 2nd shift his whole life?

FFS- stop wiping his ass for him and start teaching him how to take care of himself.  [/quote]

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