Anonymous wrote:The only thing I say -- as a cautionary note -- is that if you have a no lock rule, please have respectful boundaries.

No one in my house honored the knock rule. The only way I got privacy was to lock my door. I remember my mother would open my door and then say "Knock Knock." She did this because (as a pp so proudly announces) she did not trust me.

If you don't trust your kids, the problem lies deeper than an issue of whether or not to lock a door. People have a fundamental right to privacy and boundaries, people of all ages.

+1. My parents used to knock while in the process of entering. Not even a second for me to say "hold on a second" if I was changing. I developed a deep need for privacy due to this. I was also much more unwilling to share any info with my parents due to the fact that I got no privacy and they didn't respect any boundaries. It really impacted our relationship, even to this day. I wasn't doing anything bad; I just wanted some privacy.

This is OP

Way to keep it klassy, ladies. Sheesh, just because this forum is anon doesn't mean you have to be negative and mean. Peace out

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Anonymous wrote:^ or have him go to bed an hour earlier. If he's getting enough sleep, he shouldn't be sleeping thru things he really wants to do. Or take him to the doctor and have him assessed for some kind of sleep disorder. But waking up is a pretty basic human function and he's not capable of it right now.

Do some research, for God's sake. The adolescent biological clock is of synch often, much like permanent jet lag. It's not that simple.

Oh please - give me a break. My teen falls asleep at 9:30pm every night and is up for swimming before school. No issues. No clock off shift. Enough of EVERY comment about teens staying up late is about a biological clock.

Agree. It's possible to get used to almost anything if you force yourself to do so out of necessity.

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Anonymous wrote:^ or have him go to bed an hour earlier. If he's getting enough sleep, he shouldn't be sleeping thru things he really wants to do. Or take him to the doctor and have him assessed for some kind of sleep disorder. But waking up is a pretty basic human function and he's not capable of it right now.

Do some research, for God's sake. The adolescent biological clock is of synch often, much like permanent jet lag. It's not that simple.

Oh please - give me a break. My teen falls asleep at 9:30pm every night and is up for swimming before school. No issues. No clock off shift. Enough of EVERY comment about teens staying up late is about a biological clock.

Anonymous wrote:^ or have him go to bed an hour earlier. If he's getting enough sleep, he shouldn't be sleeping thru things he really wants to do. Or take him to the doctor and have him assessed for some kind of sleep disorder. But waking up is a pretty basic human function and he's not capable of it right now.

Do some research, for God's sake. The adolescent biological clock is of synch often, much like permanent jet lag. It's not that simple.

These are not deadbolts. If my house was on fire, 5'2, 100 pound me would have the door down in 1 minute. That said my kids don't use them much and I am ok with them having privacy.

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Anonymous wrote:What emergency would come up that you couldn't just unlock or bang the door down.

Some people just have way too much of a coddled world. A lock door is just some privacy. Nothing more, nothing less.

Bingo. I laughed at the PPs who won't let their kids lock their doors because they're such heavy sleepers they won't hear a smoke alarm. Think about that- their teen child is unable to get out of a burning building and rather than focus on teaching a true life-or-death skill, they say the door has to be unlocked. If your kid is truly that deep of a sleeper, then push the smoke detector button a couple times at 2am on a Saturday. I guarantee everyone will be out of bed in under 30 seconds.

Besides- what if the parent is incapacitated or gone for the night? Teach a little self preservation.

Instead of being such a smug bitch, take some time to educate yourself.

http://www.today.com/news/kids-can-sleep-through-smoke-alarms-experts-say-1C9010718
Not everyone was talking about teens, either.

Anonymous[b wrote:]I could care less[/b] about locked doors. What is the big deal?

I couldn't care less....
fixed it.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you really want to walk in on them jacking off?

No. So I knock.

I knock and wait until I hear, "Come in." If I don't hear that, I wait a few seconds and then ask, "Can I come in?"

^ or have him go to bed an hour earlier. If he's getting enough sleep, he shouldn't be sleeping thru things he really wants to do. Or take him to the doctor and have him assessed for some kind of sleep disorder. But waking up is a pretty basic human function and he's not capable of it right now.

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Anonymous wrote:What emergency would come up that you couldn't just unlock or bang the door down.

Some people just have way too much of a coddled world. A lock door is just some privacy. Nothing more, nothing less.

Bingo. I laughed at the PPs who won't let their kids lock their doors because they're such heavy sleepers they won't hear a smoke alarm. Think about that- their teen child is unable to get out of a burning building and rather than focus on teaching a true life-or-death skill, they say the door has to be unlocked. If your kid is truly that deep of a sleeper, then push the smoke detector button a couple times at 2am on a Saturday. I guarantee everyone will be out of bed in under 30 seconds.

Besides- what if the parent is incapacitated or gone for the night? Teach a little self preservation.

I'm the parent who posted about sleeping, and I'm really curious how you teach waking up as a skill. Trust me, I'd love to know.

I'm a really bad cook, so I've set off the smoke detector, which is directly outside DC's door, while making breakfast more times than I care to admit. He's never stirred. He's also slept through his alarm and missed things that he definitely wanted to do, more than once. Do I worry? Of course I do. But it's hard to teach someone what to do when they're asleep, so if you know how then please tell me. In the meantime, given that I don't want to have to break down the door on school mornings and our locks don't have holes for pins, I'll keep telling to leave his door unlocked at night.

If your kid truly is incapable of getting himself out of a burning house on his own, I'm amazed you throw your hands up and believe there's nothing you can do about it.

As I said before- run a couple middle-of-the-night fire drills. Set off the smoke detector at 2am. Yell 'FIRE' and run a mock fire drill in the middle of the night. Seriously- what would they do if you were unconscious from smoke asphyxiation or gone for the night?

I guarantee your kid has heard the smoke alarm, ignores it, and rolls over. Or maybe the you need to put a smoke detector right outside his bedroom door. But there's a slight difference between hearing the smoke detector go off while he can hear you cooking and a 2am fire alarm.

Why do you have to break down the door on school mornings? Your kid can't set their own alarm and get out of bed on their own? I'm assuming your kid is at least 12, since this is the older kids forum. Seriously, have them start setting their own alarm and being responsible for their own morning ritual. My daughter isn't a morning person- hell, I'm not a morning person. But you're resigned to the current fact that your kid is incapable of waking themselves up. What is he going to do when he goes to college or has to get a job in a few years? Pick only afternoon courses or work 2nd shift his whole life?

FFS- stop wiping his ass for him and start teaching him how to take care of himself.