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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She may be feeling panicked and out of control because of your cancer diagnosis. She's worried. When people are feeling out of control, they try to grab onto things they think they can control. Your spending may be one of them.

You might want to sit down with an objective third party. In this case a financial planner could be that objective voice. Or you could go talk with a marriage counselor for a few sessions to get at the root of this and work out a plan where you get to have your "toys" and she feels in control.[/quote]

I have suggested marriage counseling, but she rejects it.  I refuse to go to a financial planner, because we are fine.  The planner will not tell me anything I don't know.  Fine as in:  we bought our house in 1999, before the runup, and while my salary has gone up 2.5x, the mortgage is about the same (2K per month on 160K/year income).  The real issue on the finances is she never looks at the big picture;  she sees sometimes we have very little in the checking account....but sometimes we have a lot.[/quote]

We have the same income and a similar mortgage (just under $2200) and I would FREAK OUT if DH spent that much on technology. And he would freak out if I did. That is an outrageous amount for a middle-income family to spend each year on gadgets. Especially a family with serious medical bills to deal with. I am really sorry about your health but I can totally understand your wife's concern. She is probably so worried about you and the financial worries are just heaped on top of that.[/quote]

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