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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you like your sister otherwise? If so I'd let it go.

Do you want to keep the coin collection? Then agree to a value and pay your sibs out.[/quote]

OP:  I don't think I like people who look out only for themselves, and it looks to me that my sister falls in this category.[/quote]

OP, your response here tells us that there's more going on in your whole past history with your sister (and possibly your brother) than a few stones and coins that collectively aren't worth that much.

If you would carry around these issues for four years after a death, the bigger picture here is not about these objects. You mention only late in your first post that your sister somehow charged your mom a whopping amount for caring for her, when you never "charged" anything. Any chance that "charge" was actually money taken from your mom's funds to pay for medical needs that were increasing because your mom was getting closer to passing away? Or that your sister was hiring other caregivers at times to come into the home or anything like that? Or do you just know for certain --and I'd want to be certain before filing it under "I resent her forever" -- that your sister was basically pocketing mom's cash at a rate of three grand a month? I'm just saying, do you know for sure why sister "charged" or where that money went, or are you assuming she was paying herself? Was she stopping a paying job of her own to care for your mom? Not saying that alone is reason to take the money but it might offer some explanation....

Lots more to this story somewhere. And I'd bet it includes sibling issues from before your mom's illness.

PP who says above, if you like your sister otherwise, drop all this, is absolutely right. And I'd add, if you like your brother otherwise, send him the coins and forget about them and don't worry about getting your third of $130. But it sounds like there are old issues behind these struggles over what are just things.

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