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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I completely understand you.
My parents always told me to rely on myself even when I was in dire need to their help, years ago. I was on my last $400 but they did help me out.

OP, have your parents always adored your brother?
I have  a brother who can do no wrong. His divorce dragged for over 2 years because every property my parents had was in my brother's name and his wife came after everything.
At  24, he was making close to $150 grans. This was 12 years ago. Then he decided to start his own business, daddy heavily invested in it, then came the divorce (physicalloy abusing his wife), but he was still the perfect son and the wife was supposedly crazy.

It's been 5 years since the divorce. Parents have since bought another house, put it yet again in his name, even though he has not worked for almost 7 years. All he does is go and travel, always first class, staying in the best hotels in the world. My son talks to him so he knows uncle spends a lot. And it's not work related since he does not work.
I recently asked my parents if they would help me out so that I could put my child in private, and they declined saying I should live according to my means.
I do not believe your situation is as extreme as mine. Hang in there.[/quote]

NP here.  For anything in life you can say "well life isn't fair" or "well that is their choice as the (fill in the blank, boss, parent, teacher, etc) to play favorites". Yes, the parents can do anything with their money.  But I think OP is equally valid in not feeling happy and saying "ohhh yippy, my parents have enabled my brother for the x time but can't be bothered when it comes to X for me ... Let me go out in celebrate".  Being bothered is human and I think it is the rare person that can shrug off blatant favoritism from their parents and not give a hoot no matter what you say on DCUM.   What you do about it is another thing.

To me it is a philosophical thing of favoring the child most in need or trying to treat your kids equally regardless of need.  Someone can make the argument for most in need but I believe I should treat my kids equally regardless of need.  If I had the ability to help one child in a divorce situation I would either loan the money or it would be against future inheritance.  In my mind that is fair.  As an adult they can make any choice they want but I expect as an adult they can afford the choices they make.  There are lots of people that can't fall back on financial support so that in and of itself is a luxury.  So if i am providing one child the luxury of making a choice be it career, private school for kids, where to live post divorce, that I am willing to pay for, why would I not do that for my other child?  Do if it isn't a loan that is being paid back, the future inheritance gives the other siblings choices that are paid for by the estate for something that may come up once I am gone.  Anyway that's me.  If OP's parents don't think that way, nothing OP will say will change that.
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