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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^What seems to be missing in your very reasonable explanation is that those in-laws whose quirky ways are difficult to understand happen to be the parents of the husband.

It is not exactly like they are strangers from no where. How do you think the wife would feel if her parents visited unexpectedly and the husband told them they were not welcome and should leave pronto?

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Another PP here.  Exactly.  My parents live 5 minutes away and they have done some absolutely crazy sh!t - example, picking up one of the kids from school unannouced because they "wanted to take him to the park."  My DH gets aggravated with them(just as I do) but he would NEVER make them feel unwelcome nor would he pressure me into making them feel unwelcome.  He knows that I feel bad about some of the stuff they do and he would never make me feel worse by [b]demanding [/b]that I take some hard line with them.  He is gracious to a fault with them, even when he should not be, because of his love and respect for me (and my relationship with them.)  That being said, if my IL's showed up unannounced, I would try to be as gracious as I could out of respect and love for my DH and my children.  I would NEVER expect my DH to tell HIS parents that they are not welcome and, as one PP said, tell them to head to a hotel.  Although DH would likely tell his OWN parents that himself because he feels that I would be stretched too thin, but I would be fine with them staying.

OP's ILs probalbly did not announce it because they know that OP and her DH would have said no.  It was calculated on their part but there was a reason for the caluclation. [/quote]

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