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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.  [/quote]

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.[/quote]

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

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Well said.  Seriously.  Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep?  We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life.  Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.[/quote]

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself?  If not, just shut the fuck up.  Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is.  My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried.  She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day.  I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue.  I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made.  I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it.  22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body.  I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will.  I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless".  For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.[/quote]

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