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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

Very well said PP

As a matter of fact I did. When in college. My parents were minimally supportive on the subject. It was an open adoption and my child lives in Calf with an amazing family. She is an amazing girl. I am glad that I did not kill/murder her. Yes, it was a tough period but it was 10 months. It is done.

Have you ever seen what an 11 week old baby does when an abortion is being performed? It tries to save itself. It is a person. I am sorry you all are so selfish.

As for the mothers talking about hard pregnancies and risks - it is pregnancy. Women and babies all the time die. It is a factor. Something not to be taken lightly.

I cringe at the realization that we fight for rights but don't take responsibility for our own bodies. If you don't want a child with a particular man then don't have sex with him. Or use multiple forms of birth control. Rarely is the abortion performed due to contraception failure. So murder of a baby because of selfish acts seems so reasonable.

It doesn't have a brain or higher cognitive functions. It isn't a person. It is an irritable bundle of tissue that reacts to stimulus.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

Very well said PP

As a matter of fact I did. When in college. My parents were minimally supportive on the subject. It was an open adoption and my child lives in Calf with an amazing family. She is an amazing girl. I am glad that I did not kill/murder her. Yes, it was a tough period but it was 10 months. It is done.

Have you ever seen what an 11 week old baby does when an abortion is being performed? It tries to save itself. It is a person. I am sorry you all are so selfish.

As for the mothers talking about hard pregnancies and risks - it is pregnancy. Women and babies all the time die. It is a factor. Something not to be taken lightly.

I cringe at the realization that we fight for rights but don't take responsibility for our own bodies. If you don't want a child with a particular man then don't have sex with him. Or use multiple forms of birth control. Rarely is the abortion performed due to contraception failure. So murder of a baby because of selfish acts seems so reasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

Very well said PP

As a matter of fact I did. When in college. My parents were minimally supportive on the subject. It was an open adoption and my child lives in Calf with an amazing family. She is an amazing girl. I am glad that I did not kill/murder her. Yes, it was a tough period but it was 10 months. It is done.

Have you ever seen what an 11 week old baby does when an abortion is being performed? It tries to save itself. It is a person. I am sorry you all are so selfish.

As for the mothers talking about hard pregnancies and risks - it is pregnancy. Women and babies all the time die. It is a factor. Something not to be taken lightly.

I cringe at the realization that we fight for rights but don't take responsibility for our own bodies. If you don't want a child with a particular man then don't have sex with him. Or use multiple forms of birth control. Rarely is the abortion performed due to contraception failure. So murder of a baby because of selfish acts seems so reasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

Very well said PP

As a matter of fact I did. When in college. My parents were minimally supportive on the subject. It was an open adoption and my child lives in Calf with an amazing family. She is an amazing girl. I am glad that I did not kill/murder her. Yes, it was a tough period but it was 10 months. It is done.

Have you ever seen what an 11 week old baby does when an abortion is being performed? It tries to save itself. It is a person. I am sorry you all are so selfish.

As for the mothers talking about hard pregnancies and risks - it is pregnancy. Women and babies all the time die. It is a factor. Something not to be taken lightly.

I cringe at the realization that we fight for rights but don't take responsibility for our own bodies. If you don't want a child with a particular man then don't have sex with him. Or use multiple forms of birth control. Rarely is the abortion performed due to contraception failure. So murder of a baby because of selfish acts seems so reasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

Very well said PP

Anonymous wrote:Stop creating a problem where there is none.

I had an abortion while DH and I were dating. When we got pregnant after we were married the abortion never came up.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

Have you surrendered a baby for adoption yourself? If not, just shut the fuck up. Adoption is not the rainbows and roses you think it is. My mom gave up a child for adoption before she met my dad and every single day of her life from then to now she has cried. She worries about sister constantly and feels guilty every day. I, on the other hand, chose to terminate a pregnancy that I did not feel equipped to continue. I love babies and I'm sorry that the pregnancy did not happen at a time when I could have parented one well, but I have never regretted the choice I made. I cried about the unintended pregnancy but I have never cried about ending it. 22 years later I have a baby I adore and I nearly died from pre-eclampsia before his birth, which has had (so far) permanent effects on my body. I would not trade him for the works but I don't think any woman should be forced to risk her life to birth a child against her will. I wish that I could have had another child or two, but I have never regretted the termination of my first pregnancy.

Adoption is not just "selfless". For some people, it is ripping off a part of themselves and the wound never, ever heals.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:A life is a life. You chose to take one for your own priorities which is a shame. You may want to consider counseling for the negative thinking pattern regarding your husband's perceived reaction. Wishing you all happiness with your new addition.

The would-be parents lives don't count for anything? Quality of life doesn't matter? A life is a life until that baby needs to eat and the parents cant take care of it; then everybody gets really quiet.

That's why there's adoption. It's true accountability and not for one's own self interest, which so many of us lack.

Well said. Seriously. Why is our society so screwed up that a woman feels like if she is pregnant she either has to abort or keep? We should have a campaign to support and adopt. It's a life. Everything about that baby is created when sperm meets egg and successfully implants. If women didn't feel the stigma of it. Although, I had one former friends who did not want to "ruin" her body yet. ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH really wanted kids and we got pregnant earlier than expected, literally honeymoon baby. I was gunning for a big promotion at work and the timing would very possibly have killed my career, so I wanted to end the pregnancy. He wanted the baby but was supportive.

We are now expecting #2 and the topic has honestly never come up. Neither of us resents it, although we are a few years older as parents than we would have been. I think now that we are happy with children it was the right decision and we are so happy there would be no value on dwelling on that time. I suppose had things not worked out (secondary infertility) it might have been harder but that is not the case for you.

I wouldn't dredge up the issue unless you think there is something to discuss. Timing your reproduction is a major part of modern life and is largely a good thing for familiies (in my opinion and it appears in yours too). Life isn't perfect but this is really not a problem in the scheme of things. Save your worries for your current pregnancy and hopefully, future child.

Sorry, to be clear, we now have one child (2) and are expecting #2 shortly. We've been married 7 years or so.

So you aborted your first child for a job promotion?

She did it for a promotion.

Holy shit, I knew that this area was full of selfish and self absorbed people but this is INSANE.

I can only imagine what crap parents you all make -- oh, let's find a nanny to raise our children and make sure there are plenty of sitters for the weekend and when I need to do my girl's weekends every month to get away from the hour or so a day I spend with my adorable children.



No. She did it so her future children could have better lives, supported by her career.

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Anonymous wrote:You were reckless, God have mercy on your family and soul

My husband changed his whole stance on abortion after our children (a fiance prior aborted a child of theirs). He didn't really care at the time. Now he hates her for doing that. He didn't feel that way until our first child was 18 months or so.

Wow. i didn't really care one way or another but once I actually went through a pregnancy, I became vehemently pro-choice.

Same. Except I had always been pro-choice. Pregnancy just made me more passionate about it.

It is opposite for me. I was very pro choice. Then saw my ultrasound at 8 weeks pregnant and became pro life instantly.