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[quote=Anonymous]Hey OP -

The exact same thing happened to me. My then boyfriend and I got pregnant when I was 24 and we chose to have an abortion. It was a tough decision, but we couldn't have forseen that we would stay together and eventually marry.

We had a child together last year and talked about it a bit. I was also worried my husband would be angry or resentful, but he said everything he felt was laid out on that day. (I opted for a medical since it was early on, so most of the abortion happened at home.)

We both felt a little twinge of "what if" but that situation was too hard to call. I don't think we would have made it as a couple with the pressure of a child and I don't think we would have been in the position we are in life if we had chosen differently.

If you are concerned, talk to him about his feelings.  Don't assume. Men need support after abortion as well and you really don't know what he is feeling.

And don't feel like you have to feel a certain way about it either. You can feel regret and sadness and relief and contentment all at the same time. For me, I terminated my pregnancy at 11 and a half weeks. I had my son 8 years later - I felt him move for the first time at 17 weeks.

Having gone through a pregnancy, I don't think I would want to have another abortion. (But who knows really?) But then again, if I could go back in time, I wouldn't change my decision. [/quote]

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