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I think it's a shame, unless your in-law is proven guilty in a criminal case and you fear professional or private repercussions.

What's in a name? Generations of family history. 
You would be losing all of that accumulated identity as well, which is a cultural loss, particularly if someone in your family is into genealogy and wants to research his tree. Your husband's parents are just one minuscule blip on a huge and fascinating family history.

I admit I'm biased because genealogy is very important for me - one of my ancestors went to the first Crusade in 1096, and my family has records of their history and involvement in political and military activities since then. Obviously there have been terrible family feuds, the most recent of which involved going to court and my parents not speaking to my uncle. But feuds do not matter. The rest matters.

I hope your husband can put more thought into this.
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Right, but in this case the more powerful influence of the name is the fact that it causes distress for one of it's bearers. That needs to be weighed against the fact that future generations may have a harder time finding out their geneological history. (a problem whciih could be eased/eradicated by changing to the mother's maiden name)[/quote]

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