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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Except you aren't the personal caterer.  They offered to take everyone out for dinner but you declined.  Did it ever occur to you that they had planned to see all these people for Christmas but since you guys refused to travel they changed plans?  Your in laws sound like great people. It's a shame they have a son and daughter in law like you two.  You're unbelievable. [/quote]

I agree with this, OP.  You are asking if it's rude of them to bring their family to your part of the country to celebrate Christmas?  Please try, try really hard, to understand this from their perspective.  they are doing everything possible to accommodate you.  It was their year!!! You were supposed to go to their house (or part of the country or whatever).  They were supposed to host.  YOU said "we don't feel like traveling with kids"  Forget the fact that the "foreign cousins (whatever that means) HAD to travel with their kids to accommodate you.

So, MIL (who sounds extremely generous) had to call everyone that was coming to her house for Christmas and say "Okay everyone.  DCUM DIL doesn't feel like traveling, so everyone pack your bags and we're going there.  I'll pay, don't worry."  And the fact that she offered for everyone to go to a restaurant is amazingly generous (again), and then you say "wouldn't it be better, you know, AGAIN for ME and MY kids, to be in a house instead of a restaurant???"  so Again, MIL accommodates you and thinks, okay, everyone.  DCUM DIL wants the dinner at her house.

Again, did it ever occur to you that maybe when she suggested a restaurant, she thought of the restaurant that's in or next to the hotel so the whole entire family didn't have to trek to your house? that it would be easier for most of the family to be able to leave whenever they wanted to and go up to their hotel rooms instead of being stranded at your house until everyone was ready to leave?

I agree with everyone else in saying that you really are being selfish on this one.  And you are not held prisoner to her because they helped you monetarily.  But it does put things in perspective that they have and continue to be generous.[/quote]

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