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[quote=Anonymous]I loathe my in-laws. Just cannot stand them. We've been married for 18 years, and they still resent me for marrying DH.

I'm from a different social class, different religion, different educational background. I have never in the slightest held anything about my background over or against them, but they absolutely seethe with resentment at me. I guess they are mad at DH for not marrying someone of his/their class/religion.

I can understand it taking a few years to adjust, but after 18 years, isn't it time to LET IT GO????

MIL is an alcoholic (never admitted by SIL or FIL, of course), so we never order drinks when we're with them. Maybe they hold that against me? We pay for food, but not booze!

Not for my ILs, including my SIL, who can't stand me. She refuses to sit next to me at dinner. None of them talk to me or the kids, just to DH. During our visits, we take them out to very nice restaurants (DH and I pay) because DH and I are foodies. The ILs always order meatloaf or hamburgers or the closest thing to something they recognize on the menu (pork chops?). They always comment about how weird the food is, never finish anything, then make a big show of thanking us for the meal. WTF??

They don't cook, so when we visit over the holidays, we take them out to dinner. This time, trying to appease them, I chose a very modest restaurant, and they complained about how small the portions were! I was trying to find something better than Red Lobster, but at least not intimidating to them. No matter what I do, I cannot ever please them. They hate and resent me, and there's not a single thing I can do about it.

On the long drive home, I told DH, NO MORE, EVER! I will not spend another holiday with them, will not drive for six hours to visit them, will not pay loads of money to stay in a hotel (their house is too small to accommodate us) take them out to nice restaurants, will not bring their only grandchildren to see them.

MIL sat next to me at dinner the night before we left and didn't say a single word to me the entire meal. All her remarks she addressed to DH. I am persona non grata, still, after 18 years!!!

We've invited them to DD's high school graduation. We're going to put them up in a hotel. Our house is large enough to accommodate them, but I would go absolutely crazy if they stayed with us. We tried that once, a long time ago, and it didn't go well, so now we just pay for a hotel. The excuse is that our kids are noisy, and our dog is rambunctious.

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