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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think getting the ring is going to give you what you want. 
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Me either. I think OP feels fundamentally cheated out of some experience or stage she wishes she had had (the young bride who was fawned over with showers and a doting fiancé?) and is maybe feeling a little but bored with marriage and unappreciated. I think the ring will be pretty to look at but she's placing too much importance on it. I think the DH has no idea why this is coming up all of a sudden and, like a man, will treat the ring exactly like a ring and not import all the other stuff onto it that OP has, at which point the ring will simply become a major bone of contention between them.

OP, I guess you feel maybe taken for granted or that your DH is complacent or doesn't love you enough. I think in your mind the ring will prove he does love you like you want him to, but it won't. It will just mean you got a ring. Think of it this way: when a man proposes with a ring, it's simply a tangible thing that represents all the promise of the marriage. You have LIVED the promise. You're still married 15 years later. Get a nice diamond eternity band to celebrate that instead. Frame it to your DH that way. "I would like a diamond band that represents how much we've accomplished in our marriage." That's way more realistic for your stage in life and something I think he could understand. It's also something I think you would really treasure. The diamond ring as make-up engagement ring won't mean to you what you think it will. That time in your life has passed. Honor the stage you're in NOW with a nice piece of jewelry. You'll appreciate it so much more. [/quote]

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