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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are the problem. Literally. The. Problem.

Listen, no one wants to deal with someone who is difficult. And if you are smart, most people will go out of their way to avoid triggering a response that will be more of a headache than just doing whatever. You created this environment by being a nagging, ungrateful, unloving spouse. Your entire post screams a lack of gratitude.

You can end it (or at least attempt to end it and save your marriage), by working on yourself. If you can't do that, welcome to single motherhood. It ain't what it's cracked up to be despite your fantasies notwithstanding.

-Single Mom.[/quote]

Another single mom here to say: He's shown you who he is, stop expecting him to be any different.

My ex-husband lied and lies to me because he doesn't think I'm worthy of a response. "When did the kids last eat?" asked at an 8:30pm drop off. Fuck it. I'm not listing a bunch of examples to make the point.

Sure, check in with yourself and see if you're guilty of whatever the DCUM bitches are accusing you of---wanting an answer? caring about your kids? assuming someone you married with tell you the truth when asked a question?

But, also look at your childish husband's passive aggressive bullshit for what it is: a damn power trip.

I don't ask questions anymore, because I can't believe a word that comes out of that man's mouth. So, I plan accordingly. Instead of spinning my wheels wondering how a grown man can lie about having changed his daughter's diaper when it's clear the same one has been on all day long, I potty trained her quickly and put her brother in charge of carrying the diapers to daddy's house for visitation. Same with filling snacks, etc. They have learned to be resourceful around their father.

His lies to them kill me, so I don't participate in them. He tries to get them to go wash their hands or go upstairs to grab a toy in anticipation of him playing with them a bit before leaving, but will glide out instead of saying goodbye, leaving me to deal with the anguish---not of his departure---but of the lie. So, as much as it pisses him off, I make them say good bye to him before going to do what he asked.

You are beholden to your children. If this man chooses to lie to avoid adult conversations...do what you want. I'm not going to beat you up for your husband's bad behavior. There are worse things than being a single mom.

I no longer exist on shifting realities.

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