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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't listen to anyone.  You are blessed with a child who is a sound sleeper.  My DS is 4.5, still naps for 3+ hrs and I cannot tell you the amount of dirty looks and irritation poorly disguised as concern from other moms: "Oh, are you sure he's OK?" "Oh! What time does he go to bed at night??"  Gives me very special pleasure to say, "well, by 9 pm, of course!"

You know what that is? It's freaking jealousy. Parents LOVE a child who gives them a 3-hr break in the middle of the day.  It's super convenient, you can get a lot done and take a very nice nap yourself.  This is what I did today between 2 and 5.30 pm: took a 90-minute nap, cooked three major dishes and watched half a movie.

There is nothing wrong with your child.  Inlaws have long forgotten what children's schedules are like.  They are pissed their grandchild isn't available for whatever occasions, but they will get over it, and your child is not a circus monkey to entertain them when they feel like it.  He won't nap like this forever.  I would refuse to mess with his nap in any way other than perhaps shifting it by 30 mins or however long it takes before your child starts getting cranky.  His need for sleep is more important than your inlaws' need for his company. [/quote]

I think there's something off about a person who cries "jealous!" at every little thing. It's unusual for a 4.5yo to nap 3+ hours a day. When people hear unusual things, they ask questions. It's not jealousy, it's not...anything. It's just normal human nature to ask questions about unusual things. My friend told me her toddler sleeps until 9:30 am. That's unusual, isn't it? So my first question was "Wow! What time does she go to bed?" I wasn't jealous. It's awesome for her, but I don't feel jealously towards every good thing that happens for a friend.

I also think it's funny you're so smug about a 9pm bedtime. A lot of parents would rather spend that time with their spouses. When you say he goes to bed at 9pm, I think to myself "well, there's the trade-off." Not "wow! a long nap AND bedtime at 9pm? You've got it made!"  
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