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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Do NOT let your MIL move in with you if you want to preserve your marriage. This type of arrangement only succeeds if the parent (Mother or MIL) gets along extremely well with the woman of the household and is not a PITA. Listen to your intuition. Look for alternative care arrangements, such as having live-in caregivers at her home or finding a elder care home. [/quote]

Caring for ILs took my marriage to the breaking point - and I got along with them.  I didn't feel close to them but we always had a positive relationship.  My DH, like yours, is an only child.  He felt a great responsibility to his parents as they got older and more infiirm, they became more demanding and more unreasonable.  As a PP noted, aspects of their personalities intensified.  DH felt like he was between a rock (them) and a hard place (me).  If my FIL hadn't died when he did, we'd be divorced.  Unless you feel committed to your MIL (and I don't see why you would), there's no way in hell I'd let her move in.  Pay for someone to come in a few times a week or get her into independent living. [/quote]

x infinity. Please OP, do not let her move in. You have other options that will give her quality care. DO NOT DO IT![/quote]

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