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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.  Sorry I did not address the court order. The court order dictates the amount of the support. He covers their health insurance.  Not sure how medical bill work, they probably split them bc he paid for half of glasses and braces. They split activities, except she never pays for when the activities are with us in the summer. They split travel, except she never pays him back for tix. The last thing she told DSD was that she couldn't get an updo for homecoming bc dad wouldn't pay half for it.  Not "you're a freshman and we are not spending $120 on your hair."   Not "if you want an updo you can do extra chores to pay for it."   [/quote]

Ok so you know exactly Jack about their agreement. Educate yourself first before you make yourself sound like an idiot.[/quote]

No I just don't remember exactly what the arrangement is for medical.  Just bc I don't have the thing memorized verbatim doesn't mean I know "Jack".  Regarding the $500 per kid amount, curious what people think would be more appropriate.  She is a GS13 in Houston so prob making a high 5 figures.  He makes a bit less than her and lives in DC area.  [/quote]

And he's active duty with BAH etc... Tax free shopping? Oh dear you are a bitter one[/quote]

Yeah he's active duty deployed three times to Iraq and Afghanistan in combat, injured, losing his hearing, lost friends, and all of that.  So seriously STFU about BAH and tax free shopping.   He gets perks as an active duty service member but his sacrifice is way more than a 10 percent military discount at Ref Robin.  [/quote]

And do you want to hold the ex responsible for "his sacrifice" too?  Maybe you think because your husband CHOSE to enter the military that somehow he is owed more from society and the ex wife than a civilian?  My grandfather was a general in the army and he never made a big deal about it.  But I can tell you that the military industrial complex he placed on his children was harmful to them in many ways and I still see the result of that in my father's stunted emotional capabilities.  No, I'm not saying every serviceperson is a terrible parent.  But I am saying that serving in the military makes you no better equipped for or entitled to raising a kid than any other job (And in fact it can carry with it unique complications like PTSD that make raising a child much more difficult).  I'm grateful to all servicepeople for the service but it sounds like you and your husband want him to be treated like a special snowflake outside the bounds of the law and the legal standard for custodial support in a divorce.  Sorry, dude- it just doesnt work that way.  Hopefully your hubby's military service taught him the importance of living out obligations and acting honorably.  He needs to start applying that to his attitude towards monetary support of his ex wife.[/quote]

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