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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have a MIL like yours (zero boundaries, no concept of appropriate conversation, completely impervious to hints).

On my wedding day she made three references to her hope that I was pregnant, one of them next to my father at dinner when she said "I was really hoping this was a shotgun wedding."

Both I and my husband had to tell her very directly to stop asking.  VERY directly.  More than once.

God help you if you ever do get pregnant.  The conversations I had to have with her then about when and where she was allowed to be present, with whom she was allowed to share medical information, whether I wanted her two cents on breastfeeding, etc... were appalling.

Good luck!!![/quote]

Op here- god, that sounds miserable.

She has already referred to the unconceived fetus by name. Apparently it's a girl. And she has named her.[/quote]

OP, that is very scary. I thought my mom had no boundaries, but your MIL takes the cake! With one like this, just be firm and consistent. No matter if she's direct or not, just tell her "I'm not going to discuss that with you." And walk away, change subject, etc.

What does DH think about all of this? He needs to be on board with you. If MIL keeps asking you even after you've shut down the conversation, then DH needs to talk with her about boundaries. Consider pulling away from her to create distance, like visiting/calling less frequently, keeping visits/phone calls shorter, limit information you tell her, etc. If you're already doing this then good luck.[/quote]

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