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Then I don't understand at all. Your daughter's friend get an award for something you don't value anyway. Why does this upset you? Why are you being competitive about this?[/quote]

I guess I'm upset because it seems that introverts and non-cookie cutter kids don't get as much attention at school.   My DD is pretty well-behaved and is at a good level academically. But she's not the one to yell "Me!  Me! I know the answer!".  She's also shy so she knows a lot more than she'll volunteer to disclose.  She doesn't actively seek approval from others.  And I worry that she is not valued by the teacher and the school as much as extroverted kids.

I also think that all this focus on compliance and good behavior (which is what K is really about) is mostly for teacher's convenience so that the class is manageable, but doesn't benefit the children as much.  I'm starting to sympathize with complaints of boys' parents.

From my personal observations I think I know the recipe of how to raise over-achieving kids, but that's not how I'm raising DD: Treat your kids like crap, criticize them and they'll spend an entire life trying to secure approval and praise from others and over-achieve to prove that they're actually good enough.

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I think your feelings are normal. I have a son who doesn't behave well at school, but is exceptionally curious, bright, and passionate about his interests. He's a really cool kid- but not easy to manage in the classroom. We.listen to teachers and try to help our son modify his behavior, but occasionally it does get to me that teachers seem to marginalize his good qualities and complain about his difficult qualities. I've learned over the years that I know my kid best and we have to have a thick skin when it comes to this stuff.  [/quote]

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