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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL is a nice person and tries to be supportive/not intrusive but I still can't wait until we move and don't have to deal with her and FIL.  What MILs don't understand is we DILs want to make our own home with their sons. [b]You had your time with him when he was in your home, now let us have ours[/b]![/quote]

How very immature. Do you really think your spouse should cut out his family just because you are married?  Are you that insecure?  The human heart (at least for most of us, not sure about you) has an infinite capacity to love.  I am not a mil and have many, many years to go, but I can't help but wonder if many of the mil problems are actually insecure and controlling DILs.[/quote]

Haha!  I knew all the moms of sons would have a fit![/quote]

Wah!  Wah!  I don't want to share.  It's (he's) mine!  I don't want to share and you can't make me!

Geez, lady.  You sound like a three year old.[/quote]

Just keeping it real.  Your future DIl may not tell you this to your face but she'll want it nevertheless. [/quote]

Interesting. I was never so insecure in DH's love for me that I felt the need to have him cut his mom out of his life.  Hoping my DD is mature enough to know she doesn't need to do that to her DH some day (which isn't very loving) and DS choses a mature and secure woman who doesn't feel threatened by him loving other people, too. My friends who saw their DH's family as competition for love haven't had such happy marriages. I want more for my kids as we all benefit by having more people who love us. Of course, it all depends upon raising kids who are strong, secure and emotionally mature and hoping they marry people with the same traits. Love isn't a competition.[/quote]

Clearly there is a MIL trying desperately to deflect here.  In my MIL's case, she has had a lifetime of feeling shortchanged.  All before I came into the picture.  She thinks the world did her wrong.  And she really, really needs a scapegoat.  Like the PP.

But you see, all I can do is try to be nice to her.  Which gets me no where.  Her loss. 
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