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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand that you feel hurt. But at the same time, you're an adult. You and your husband's adult choice to have three children, wasn't your mom's choice. So why do you expect her to step in for choices she didn't make? You know what having children involves. You have to bear the burden of your choices, and not expect others - including your mother - to drop everything to help you.

This isn't like a sudden, emergency medically necessary, life-saving surgery.

Accept and respect your mother's choices, as she has her own life, too. Whether or not you agree with her choices (she may not agree with yours, either). What makes for a healthy relationship between parents and adult children, is beginning to respect each other as equals - and that includes not depending on her for help from your choices, and that includes respecting that she has her own life apart from being a mother and grandmother. The sooner you can accept and respect this, the better your relationship can be. You have a choice in letting go of your expectations, and letting go of the hurt. [/quote]

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