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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd just phase her out. Even though your motivations are kind, resist the urge to tell her that her version of reality is out of whack and she needs help. I think doing so it just poking the bear.  She's looking for your reaction and you need to stop giving it to her IMO.  [/quote]

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OP here. Agreed on all points. Critical update: She called AGAIN and left an irritated sounding message (as if once I again I didnt do it right) regarding the information that I left on her work voicemail (on a topic she asked me to research for her and then was upset I had given her the information too soon) acting as if the detailed info I left didnt have one detail in it that was "the one thing" she wanted to know. :shock:

Needless to say, this is a new level of nuts. The info WAS all there and so much more.

Im actually now getting more disturbed, and am thinking maybe I need to close this out by telling her the info she apparently didnt grasp in an email-short- and THEN.......... I guess I wonder should I tell her I didnt appreciate being hung up on, that it was pretty upsetting and I dont want that kind of thing in my life?

Or just give her the info and thats that. And then begin the drift away?

At this point I am in new territory here. Ive not seen this side of her, and have not dealt with anyone like her before.  I would strongly prefer she no longer contact me. But she might go more nuts at that strong of a pushback. Agreed?

BTW she doesnt sound like she is on the verge of a nervous breakdown at all now. I guess she is in the mode that has allowed her to survive this long, dysfunctional though it mya be. :shock:

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I would call her or send a short email telling her "I included that specific info for you, you can find it here_________. To reiterate, the info I already gave you stated ___________. I have to say, I'm pretty upset that I worked so hard finding this information for you and you haven't expressed any appreciation [or all you focus on are these little things you think I messed up]." Then leave it at that. If she responds, you can take it from there (probably just ignore her responses and let it fade away). If she doesn't respond, or if she responds with crazy, again, you can just let it go. Walk away. [/quote]

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