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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Definitely lots of women posting in this thread. Man here.

Your position is understandable, and seems like you've thought it through. I'd say if DW isn't willing to work things out, just go ahead with the affair. What's the worst that can happen? You get divorced. Well sounds like that will happen anyway.

Really make sure to compartmentalize. In my case, I have little contact with any mistresses when I'm at home (as in when I'm in the city where we live), other than an email every 1-2 months. They are living in other cities, and I see them when I'm in those cities on business. [/quote]

OP here, this seems reasonable but admittedly it's also what I want to hear.  I suppose that if I was thinking of divorce, then the worst that happens if I get caught cheating is....divorce.  I should probably check with a family law attorney and see if that matters, I thought my state was no-fault.  Anyway, I am happy to give her half of everything.  She is a good mom, a good person and as a SAHM she needs to be financially taken care of till she can get established.  We are good friends, just not good sexual partners.

We are financially blessed, so date nights etc come very regularly.  We are both in good shape and attractive.  I assume this is somewhat common, although I read somewhere that couples have sex 70 times a year on average, so we are certainly WAY below average.  I was always told: "wait till the youngest is sleeping through the night, done breastfeeding, can walk, goes to pre-school, goes to school, and have tried to be patient.  I know youngest is turning 5 soon so it seems clear that nothing is going to change (it's actually gotten worse).  I don't feel like waiting till the kids are teenagers to see if I might have a real sexual relationship with my wife.[/quote]

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