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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would press for more money for college for your child. [b]I would ask for financial disclosure.[/b] what is the second (rental)property worth? If he's proposing splitting the house, but taking the second property, that doesn't seem fair.[b] I would suggest splitting the house, but his share gets reduced by 50 percent of the worth of the rental property. [/b]
Otherwise, I don't think--despite what you feel is right--that you're going to get better alimony, given that you have been employed and are employed. 
also total up retirements and split down the middle.

keep in mind the cost of lawyers duking it out. I wouldn't necessarily accept this draft, but I would accept something close to it--sounds like your STBX is being reasonable and wants to move forward. Much better than someone who is going to fight for the death over everything. [/quote]

OP here.  He has listed out all the debts and assets for me.  I can view everything on Mint.com.  What he is proposing is somewhat what the PP suggests, however he says my share is reduced b/c he is willing to take on the lions share of the marital debt and that the second property, if sold, is subject to capital gains, which he would have to shoulder, unless he moves into the property.  It is currently rented out.  He is maintaining health insurance coverage for DC and life insurance of $1 million in DC's name.

I just feel I need more cashflow on a monthly basis.  DH tells me that he is being more than fair, doesn't want to fight about it, is tired of fighting over every little thing (which is why he says he wants the divorce) and simply wants to break and move on while maintaining relationship with DC.  I sort of lost it last night on him and told him he may never see DC again if I don't get what I want.  Bad I know, but I was just pissed.  
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Whoah. I'm actually on your side -- I think you should see a good lawyer and see about getting more of the retirement, and that you have some interest in the second property. [b]But you are DEAD WRONG about "never seeing DC again.[/b]" His relationship with your kid has nothing to do with his relationship with you.  Snap out of that mode fast.  I get that you're hurt and betrayed, but do not use your child as a pawn. I mean it, snap out of that now, apologize, and never ever even hint at it again. If you do, you will be a bad, bad human being.

DH can tell you that he's being fair all he wants and that he doesn't want to fight about it. It ain't over until a lawyer who you trust tells you that it's the best deal you can get.  He doesn't get to decide how much you will fight for your share.

He also wouldn't be the first guy to "forget" some stuff when listing out all the debts and assets. Just sayin'. [/quote]

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