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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perhaps he is just feeling stressed about being a breadwinner. It is stressful, and it's hard to realize just how stressful it will be over the years when you're signing up for it when the kids are very little.

Maybe instead of a job for you (which could be its own logistical hassle and doesn't sound like what you guys want), perhaps you could offer to make and live on a budget for awhile that would be the budget of a lower-stress job for him. Pick a salary that might be in the range of what he would earn with a lower-stress, lower-paid job, try to live off of that for six months, and save up the extra money. It might give him the reassurance that you can live on less if you need, while at the same time you are helping (because living off of a tighter budget will likely require more out of you), so he might get more of a feeling of being on a team. In other words, you'd be putting your money where your mouth is as far as materialism, but without the change in lifestyle that would happen if you went back to work, and it's an easily reversible sort of thing.

Good luck, it sounds tough.  [/quote]

+1.  This is a really great idea.  Voluntarily cutting back on discretionary spending is liberating.  DW and I both work, but it's really a great feeling knowing you would be fine if you lost your job and had to take a lower paying one.[/quote]

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