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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so thankful that my 12 year old has no interest in wearing bikinis. Lots of her friends wear them and I think they look soooooo inappropriate. My daughter thinks they are a. too revealing and b. impractical for actual swimming. I'm thrilled that she does not dress to impress boys or older kids and gets confidence from her body's abilities rather than from showing it off. She's gorgeous btw, so it's not that should couldn't rock a bikini. Just that she's so awesome she doesn't need to.[/quote]

That's great for your DD. It would be nice if all girls had this confidence…however, your judgment of her friends isn't so great. Girls don't need any more scrutiny and judgement about their bodies - especially from their "gorgeous" friend's mother. I hope you're not encouraging your DD to judge her friend's for their choices because that would be in the "mean girl never grew up" category[/quote]

FWIW, her friends' mothers also lament that their daughters want to wear bikinis and comment that they wish their daughters had the confidence that mine does. Yes. I think wearing a bikini at 8 or 12 is inappropriate. I'm sure I've stated my opinion at some point, so my daughter is aware of my feelings about it but I'm not judge-y and don't harp on it. If my daughter wanted to wear one, we'd discuss why and I'd consider her opinion. My point is that I'm thankful that it's not an issue.

I guess for all the parents whose daughters "like bikinis" I'd suggest talking about what it is that they like about them. And it might be a good idea to let them know how people might view them when they wear a bikini- sexy, confident, over-sexualized, cool, fashionable, insecure- both positives and negatives. There a messages being sent and it's good to think about what they are.[/quote]

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