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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, another Russian chiming in.

I am equally fluent in Russian and English (immigrated when a child) and married an American who doesn't really speak Russian. When we visit my family, you bet I speak to my parents in Russian if he's in another room, talking to someone else, taking a shower, etc. Why on earth not? It's a language that my parents are more comfortable in and some concepts don't translate as well, plus I like using it as I don't get much of a chance to otherwise.

If he's in the room, we switch to English. One of the many reasons I love DH is if he is in the room but not involved in the conversation, or even if I am telling my mother about some event that he already knows about, he always asks me to switch into Russian and not to worry about it, because he knows it might be easier for my parents. Most of the time I don't do it, but sometimes it really helps. It also shows that he is secure and considerate, neither of which you seem to be. Most people would love to have a MIL like yours, count your blessings![/quote]

Not Russian but my family also speaks another language when husband isn't around - even though parents have been here for over 30 years, your mother tongue will always be easier/preferred.  Any like this person, my husband understands that a group of elders may continue not to speak in English when he is around.  The younger generation always speak in English when he is around. It isn't always easy for everyone else.  As long as they show that they try and respect him in other ways, he is fine (and I am too).  Meanwhile, we have a toddler who speaks my native language better than English because of time spent with my family.  It is a gift to be able to teach your child multiple languages.  My husband has picked up many words too and has an extra incentive to want to learn.[/quote]

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