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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here- I did love him and still do.  I just really had to focus on school, because I was feeling overwhelmed and worried I wasn't going to graduate.  I had to put all my attention towards my degree and didn't even date anyone else until I graduated.  After that I moved to DC and figured it was too late, so I tried to stay friends.  He's very sensitive and loving and I know I hurt him.  I've said I'm sorry and have tried to do everything I can to show him that I am sorry.  I've been really patient with him, because he said he's really guarded and not willing to let down his walls yet.  But I don't know if that's just his say if saying he wants yo casually date others just not that into me? Or maybe he just wants ex-sex?  Things have gotten flirty over text...  When we dated before he was so into me right away, always calling and texting non stop.  Now I just kind of hear from him once a week or other times like 50 texts a day, then nothing for a week.  It's like an elastic band!!  [b]Anyways I just wanted to know if this is how people really act when they're guarded or if I'm wasting my time?? [/b] It's going to be hard to go away for the weekend together and not have anything happen physically, but if that's just going to scare him away then I really don't want to have sex with him.  Any other guy I would be so outta here and not put up with his issues, but I feel like maybe the issues are kind of my fault, and I'm trying to be understanding.  [/quote]

I don't think you love him honestly.  If you did you would be doing anything and everything you could to "go get your man".  And when I say go get your man, I don't mean sleeping with him until the time is right for the both of you. If you love him you would be thinking of him morning noon and night and be willing to do anything to get his trust back.

You say that he is guarded, and frankly you are too. You are both vulnerable right now and both in the same boat.  Since you dumped him it's your responsibility to make things right. You need to tell him : 
"Look. John. I screwed up on us five years ago.  I love you, always have and don't ever want to lose you again. I am crazy about you. I am crazy about us. I want us back and I want us, for forever. Please forgive me."  Then kiss him and screw his brains out!

Isn't this what you would want from him? ^^ I would also say this the first night or day that you see him.  Don't waste time and wait until Sunday.

If you don't feel like you would drive cross country to try to get your man per say, cancel the weekend as you are just leading him and yourself on.  [/quote]

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